A Familiar Tune - Our Attachment Styles

 

Do your relationships always follow a similar pattern? Do you have the feeling that you always end up with the “wrong” person and don't know why? Are you often disappointed and hurt in relationships?

 

Or do you often feel like you are losing your freedom in relationships or are consistently plagued by doubts? Do you unexpectedly lose your romantic feelings? Do you often feel overwhelmed and overburdened by your partner's feelings? Perhaps you repeatedly suffer from depressive episodes despite the supposed success of your relationship, or have noticed that something is still missing?

 

Whether your pattern is one in which you repeatedly experience disappointment from the outside, or one in which you often experience an emotional shutdown after promising beginnings and don't understand why: you may have an insecure attachment style. You are not alone in this, because every second person is insecurely attached. The underlying causes of insecure attachment usually also have other psychological and health effects: from depression and sleep disorders to panic attacks. But the good news is that by addressing the psychological causes that trigger it, you can not only improve your overall quality of life, but also change your attachment style.

 

 

Transform Old Attachment Patterns through Systemic Therapy

 

Like so many things, the roots of insecure attachment lie in our youngest years. However, you don't necessarily have to have experienced a traumatic childhood to develop an insecure attachment style. Sometimes there are very subtle triggers that we can only identify as such after detailed reflective work. Or, perhaps, you may already have a very specific idea of what the trigger(s) for your attachment style could have been.

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Together we will look at the deep and largely subconscious beliefs about attachment and love that you have carried up until now, and how these may be influencing your ability to form attachment. We will find out how these beliefs came about and what good intentions they have. We will identify what your attachment needs really are, and how you can learn to meet them. As a systemic therapist, I will accompany you on your path of getting to know yourself better and learning how to stay in touch with your feelings and your true needs.

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I can help you learn how to allow attachment without losing yourself in it.​

 

I can support you in learning a healthy and sustainable balance between attachment and autonomy.

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I can help you to be emotionally present in your relationships without falling into patterns of fear.

I can support you in getting in touch with yourself and your true needs. 

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I can help you to recognize which boundaries you want to set so that you do not experience emotional overload in relationships.

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I can accompany you on your path to secure attachment and stable self-esteem.​

 

Get in touch with me to arrange an initial appointment or a call.